A few months ago, I was smitten by the book Passionate Housewives Desperate for God by Jennie Chancey and Stacy McDonald. There are so many books out there for women that promote selfishness, or "me-ology", even books intended for Christian wives. These books are presenting lies to women, instead of ministering the Truth of the bible. PHDG is the first book I have come across that so accurately defines and strongly encourages biblical womanhood. There are so few books that encourage women to be all that they can be in Christ, instead of in their own strength and will. There are few books that view husband's so highly, instead of "that guy that leaves the toilet seat up" and can't seem to do anything right. PHDG encourages us to stop being selfish excuse-makers, and puts our role as a wife and mother in biblical perspective.
Anyway, I was so encouraged by the book (it truly is amazing and God glorifying), that my husband said, "I wish there was a book like this for men!" So, I did a bit of searching and found, The Exemplary Husband by Stuart Scott. (Btw, there is also a book called The Excellent Wife, which I am about to read.)
I bought this book a couple months ago and am getting around to reading it myself. I encouraged my husband to read PHDG so he could exhort and encourage me in the way of the Lord and in my biblical role as wife. Therefore, I find it only natural to read the book directed towards husbands, so I can encourage him as well.
Both of these books put the focus on the Lord. "The most important commitment for the Christian husband is to have a heart of worship towards God alone," TEH reads. Afterall, when we are truly devoted to Christ and living our lives under his direction and love, we will become the spouse we need to be.
Time and time again I've heard my single friends say, "I just can't find a good, Christian spouse!" Yet, they aren't living up to the expectations they have for a spouse. Why would God bless you with a strong, Christian spouse if you refuse to live your life in submission to Him? A good Christian woman or man is also looking for a "good Christian spouse", and if you are not truly devoted to Jesus, then you aren't yet marriage material.
Of course, I have seen people who are not marriage material tie the knot and BECOME marriage material, but it's so much better to start our marriages off on the right foot, so to speak, rather than wait.
Anywho, I encourage everyone, married or single, to read these books. Read them for yourselves... not to tell your spouse, "HEY, THIS IS WHAT YOU SHOULD BE!"
I am so blessed to have a wonderful husband who willingly ministers to my needs. He is so loving and kind. My husband is a perfect example of what God can do when He gets a hold of a person! Total transformation!
Why to we try to do things our own way? Why do we resist the Lord? Why do we swim in our misery, instead of depending on the Lord? Maybe it's because we think we're having to sacrifice something, but, let me tell you.... those things we have to give up and SO WORTH IT (and, in comparison, so "nothing" to what God blesses us with in return)!
Quit being stubborn! Lean on the Lord! Quit conforming to the world, even the "religiousity" of the world, and allow God to TRANSFORM you!