Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Birth control

It should come as no surprise for anyone to find out I'm against abortion. I truly believe every child is a gift of God. Unfortunately, as with any situation and gift, some abuse or misuse gifts. We especially see this when it comes to finances- people are not always good stewards of the things they've been given.

Now, let me say upfront that I have a couple friends who have had abortions. This does not make me love them less, although I do wish they would have chosen other options, like adoption. It is not my place to judge them.

I'm writing this post on abortion to make a very valuable point. I've had a couple people ask me what I think about birth control, and well, this is my response.

Many people do not realize that most of the popular forms of birthcontrol are abortifacient. Yes, the Pill, Deprovera (shot), IUDs, and other such hormonal options allow conception but prevent implantation. This means an egg has been fertilized but is not able to implant.

Of course, the makers of birth control aren't advertising this. It's not something they really want you to know, but the "secret" is out. In fact, they have to reveal this to you by law, and, you'll probably see it printed on the pamphlet that comes with the prescription, if you took the time to read the small print (which most don't).

Birth control is just that- BIRTH control. It controls birth, not conception. I realize some people may not agree, but I believe that when the male seed and female seed form (conception), there is life. From this point, cells multiply and a baby is slowly formed.

Sadly, many pro-life people do not realize that they are doing something that is against their own belief- abortion.

I want to encourage you all do to more research on the subject.

Here are some links worth visiting.
http://www.prolife.com/BIRTHCNT.html (If I am not mistaken, Randy Alcorn actually set out to disprove this "theory" and, in the process, found it to be fact.)


In closing, I just want to say that that conception control and child bearing is something we all should be praying about. I know, for our family, God has led us to put our fertility in his hands. Of course, we all thought I'd be pregnant shortly after the birth of our third child, but, here we are, over a year later, and I am still not pregnant (even though I would love to be). There have been days when I have cried and asked God why he hasn't blessed me with another, but then, further down the line, I am able to look back and with a bit of understanding after viewing the whole situation. There will probably be days in the future when, overwhelmed and frustrated by my responsibilities to my family, I will find out I am pregnant and think, "Why now, God? Why?" However, ultimately, I know that God has a plan, and His plan is so much better than mine. (But we definitely aren't "multiplying like rabbits" as it was predicted.) Yes, people often laugh (or shudder) when they think about quiverful families. They think it's a new trend, but honestly, it's been around since the beginning of time- it's just getting more publicity now shows like TLC flipping out episodes with families loaded with children, like the "Quiverful" poster family, The Duggars, who are "working on" their 18th blessing. I am, by no means, saying that everyone should have this conviction. God works in different ways with different families- but I definitely think it's worth praying about, honestly and openly, before God, and asking whether we should be in control of when and how many children we have, consulting Him now and then, or whether, as we submit our lives to Him, we don't hold back any part- including our fertility. Just a thought. No judgement.

I realize this is such a touchy subject. I do not post it to cause debates or arguments. I write it because I love you, yes... you... even if I've never met you, and I do not want you to be in the dark and make decisions (or continue to stand on a decision) that you would not have made if you had all the facts.

Related posts:

Fill my Quiver : Our personal story of trusting God with our fertility

PS- Please read my note from Renee, who makes a very good point. The pill is suppose to protect against conception, but does not always, especially since the MAJORITY of women do not take the pill at the same time of day on a daily basis. We're forgetful, so we may take it when we wake up on Monday, and after lunch on Tuesday, and maybe forget altogether on Wednesday. This throws off the method of the pill. I think this point is made in the video I posted as well. I thought I wrote about that in here, but now I remember deleting that paragraph because I was going to embed the youtube video (but... decided to just post a link instead).


Sybarite said...

Hey Mandy it's Renee *grin* I know I never note over here. I just wanted to clarify one point on the bcp. You know me, I like clarity :-) You know what I do and some of our clients. lol. The fine print actually says Birth control pills are said to be 99.66 percent effective in preventing conception if used correctly.
When used correctly they theoretically stop ovulation, therefore a mature egg is never released but broken back and reabsorbed and conception never occurs. That said there is a second line of defense if for some reason the person misses a pill or interacts it with another drug such as an antibiotic where the progestin essentially creates a hostile reaction in the uterine lining to sperm thereby preventing implantation. (less than 1% of the time) I think this is what you are referencing. So it is not across the board that bcp's are abortificants. However, if you are pro-life I can see that even the smallest chance that you could cause that would be disconcerting and commend you in your convictions, though mine may be different. All this said, we know I'm pregnant now and was on the pill, however, I was a victim of human error with medication and bcp mixing. Hurray, bean on the way.

Have a great night!

Qtpies7 said...

Great post! I agree with you. SOME pills are ovulation stoppers, but not all, it isn't worth the risk to me. But we are trusting God anyway. We, too, long for another child and it has been almost 2 years since our last child was born. We worried that we'd just have child after child, but it isn't happening that way. And it is good. God has taken us from not wanting more to begging for more, lol. It is a good thing.

Kristin-Homemaker@Heart said...

I would say that trusting God with our fertility is by far the hardest things I've ever had to do in my life.
I still catch myself trying to justify taking fertility meds...but I know the time is not right. I can now say that I trust that when it is right, God will make it so. Hopefully sooner, rather than later.

Mother Hen said...

Great words, Mandy! Folks ought to know what they're doin' before they do it. Sad fact is, most young women don't believe that they could be conceiving. Duh! They're on the pill, and they bought what they have been told.

Carrie said...

You know Mandy, I grew up with the understanding that birth control was just something you did... if, ands, or buts about it... it was the "responsible" thing to do. I'm still struggling with this issue and right now and my husband and I are discussing my ending usage of birth control methods. I appreciated this post and I will continue to research this. Thank you for your thoughts on this!

Viki :) said...

I like what Renee said.

{ jamie } said...

Great post. I was on the pill for years & years before learning that it could work that way. I find myself leaning more & more to the quiverfull way of thinking, but as with anything we completely release control of, it's scary. And then there is the matter of both spouses being on the same page about it. Anyway, I enjoy what I've seen on your blog so far, and I'll be back!
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