Wednesday, October 13, 2010

We all have less than spectacular days


The sickies have been going around our house this week (a result of a romp in the McDirty Germground last Friday), so I've been cleaning up lots of throw-up and poo and watching the wash multiply faster than I can keep up with. (Thankfully, Hubby came home tonight and helped me tackle it! I think I have 2-3 loads left and I'll be done.... for now.)

Sometimes that's just how life is. It's interesting- sometimes we look at people's lives and figure they have it all together, and I've come to realize that some view my life that way. You must realize that we don't write about every detail of our lives. Afterall, most of my day is pretty darn boring to everyone else.

Do you really want to read about how many diapers I changed this week or how many times I had to drag my disobedient toddler back to bed around nap time (a baker's dozen) or how many times I had to place him in timeout?

I'll be honest. I do have moments when I feel like giving up. In fact, a couple weeks ago, I called my husband in tears. Our toddler was being especially, um, challenging, and I felt like I just wanted to walk out the front door and leave it all behind. (And feeling that way made me feel even worse! I don't want to feel that way about my family! I wish I always felt cheerful and calm... but that's just not reality.)

Thankfully, my husband knew just what to do. He prayed with me before I got off the phone, and then prayed after we hung up. Fifteen minutes later, I was feeling much calmer. In fact, I didn't even feel like running out the front door as soon as he got home, which is what I threatened to do.

I think many of us look at some of these noble families around us and believe that they don't ever get stressed out or have bad days, but they do. We tend to think that some families have perfectly behaved children who never act out. (I've heard people claim the Duggar's have just been blessed with perfect children, but the truth is, their children have all sorts of personalities and have tested and tried their parents time and time again. And, I think this little outtake video shows that their toddlers are just like ours!)

Truth is, I'm pretty sure every single parent out there wonders if they are doing the right thing. Are we going to look back in ten or twenty years and regret the parenting decisions we made? Nearly every day I have little moments of panic, fearing that my homeschooling methods will fail, or that my children aren't learning like they should (despite evidence that disproves this). I worry about their futures, pray and beg God to help us teach them about Him, and find myself fretting over my own example to them.

At least once a day, I have to step back and say, "God, give me the strength and wisdom to guide, train, and discipline them. On my own, I will fail, but I can do anything in Christ." I have to remind myself to leave my worries and fears at His feet, and just do my best and allow Him to fill in the gaps where I fall short.

So, when you're having a particularly trying day, just remember.....

We've all been there!

3 comments:

Leigh Anne and Josh said...

Thanks!

Mommy of 2 Boys said...

Thank you for this post!! It is a good reminder to know that you are not alone, and that yes, other parents do go through those thoughts/feelings too!
Hope everyone starts to feel better soon!!

Tim and Melissa said...

THANK YOU for this post...such a good reminder and exactly what I needed to hear right now!

Hope your household gets feeling much better fast!

p.s.-you are a fabulous mom and I really DO think you have it all together!