Thursday, November 18, 2010

I have a sweet hubby

I woke up this morning to find this note typed up on the screen:

I love you so much, baby!
Thank you for all that you do for me.
I feel loved.

What a kind and thoughtful husband I have!

It's hard to believe we've been married for eight years. Honestly, it seems like we've always been together, and I cannot even imagine my life without him.

On the other hand, it seems like it has flown by in the blink of an eye. I mean, wasn't it just yesterday that we became parents?

As I snuggle my sweet Evangeline, I'm reminded of when our first wee one arrived on the scene. Those were difficult times because neither of us were particularly prepared for marriage, much less parenthood. We had many struggles, made many horrible decisions, but thankfully, by the grace of God, came out on the other side of it all much stronger.

My husband truly is my "other half". I feel incomplete without him, and I know that if he was taken away from me, I'd feel like I was missing part of myself. It's obvious we've "worn off" on each other. I catch him making up words to songs like I often do. He catches me rattling off old Cajun sayings I used to think were ridiculous. We're one of those couples that finishes each other's sentences, but really don't have to say a word because we already know what each other is thinking.

A friend of mine commented, "You guys are so in tune with each other," but the truth is, things were not always this way. There was a time when we clashed at every corner. We had to learn that selfishness has no place in a marriage, and sadly, this is a lesson many couples never learn.

I have found that, if you're going to search for the flaws in a person, you will certainly find a never-ending list, but if you choose to focus on the wonderful qualities, the same will also come forth. Sometimes we are so busy picking apart our spouses, we fail to see all the wonderful qualities they possess. And, because we are being naggy and negative, we never give them the opportunity to shine further.

In those first years of marriage, I chose to dwell on those areas where I felt my husband lacked or failed me. I saw what he "wasn't doing" instead of all the great things he did do. I was angry that he didn't help much around home, but never considered how exhausted and worn he was from working long hours to provide for our family. I was "harumphing" about the toilet seat being up or his clothes strewn around the bedroom instead of appreciating a man who works diligently to provide for his family.

I've told this story before, and I'll probably tell it again a million times more, because it's so hard for me to believe I ever looked down my nose at such a wonderful man. Sure, he wasn't perfect then either, but I believe it was my attitude that drove him to do and say things that he shouldn't have. I don't think women realize how much of an impact their words and actions have on their husbands. God made us to be our husbands' biggest supporters. We are to be their encouragers and their helpers. Men love when their wives look to them with adoration and respect. Men desire to be wanted- not just "needed" because they supply a paycheck. I have found that when wives treat their husband with such love and respect, they (wives) usually receive as much in return.

So, today I want you to think about 10 things you love about your spouse. Is off to work early each morning (or home late each night) working hard to provide for the family? Does he make sure your vehicles are taken care of? Does he eat your burnt dinner with a smile on his face?

Here's my 10:

- He makes me feel safe. There's something about those big hands and broad shoulders that make me feel shielded from the world.
- He has a wonderful work ethic, and that fella works hard so that I can stay home with the children and teach them.
- He knows that I'd rather have a sewing machine than a new diamond ring, and a steam mop over a gold necklace. He's great at gift-giving, because he truly considers what would be most useful. (When I was pregnant with Keagan and having horrible "morning sickness" he replaced our old seagreen toilets with pretty new white ones so I'd have a fresh, new, lovely porcelain throne to hang over.)
- He gets me. I mean, really gets me. He doesn't make me feel ashamed about who I am or what I've done. He is really my best friend.
- He has cleaned up my throw up. And I mean, really super icky throw up. Now THAT is love, friends.
- Even though I know he's tired and would prefer to stay home and rest up, he is willing to go run errands or do something out of the house on the weekends.
- He calls me throughout the day to say he's thinking about me, and he loves me.
- He always puts our needs above his. I often feel a bit guilty about this, but pleasing his wife and children truly brings him joy- and THAT attitude brings ME joy!
- He's super handy. I mean, he can pretty much fix anything. (And if he doesn't know how, he'll figure it out as he goes.)
- We have such amazing spiritual talks. I love that we are on the same page. It's so nice to be able to have these wonderful talks about Jesus.

Yes, I love my husband, and I thank God for piecing together two broken people into one unified couple.


MommyLovesStilettos said...

Aww I love this :) :)

Jess said...

Aw man I love reading your blog. It's been way too long since I've checked in to see how you are doing. Thank you for continuing to write encouraging posts. You are truly impacting the Kingdom, girl.
Thanks - jessica

Toyin O. said...

Sounds like you have a wonderful husband:)